First, have a conversation with each other about it. It’s not a bad idea to go over the subject again and again and make sure you’ve covered anything you think needs to be covered. It might be as easy as a misinterpretation of how someone said something. It may also be the way the person felt at the moment. It may also be something that the other person did.
Most of the time, it’s a mixture of one or more of those factors. The trick is to concentrate on what was lost and how you can both fix the error in a caring manner.
Second, if you and your partner are unable to resolve the issue on your own, you can seek help from a church or neighborhood counselor. Discussing your relationship issue with your counselor has the advantage of providing you with a fresh, new viewpoint on the situation, which can lead to a more educated decision to fix the problem.
Counselors may also help you build coping mechanisms for any previous problems you or your partner may have had with others. Even though going to see a psychologist can be embarrassing, it is well worth the time. And if your partner or spouse refuses to go to therapy, you should make an effort to go alone.
When you explore the situation with your partner again, you will have a clearer understanding of how to solve it. It isn’t even necessary to seek marital therapy. It may also be for financial or spiritual reasons.
Read some workbooks that you can work on together, either one or both of you. It will not only be entertaining, but it will also help you and your partner bond in ways you never expected.
Schedule a time where the two of you will sit down and work over potential situations together, so that if difficulties arise in the future, you can both be secure in your ability to solve them and emerge stronger than ever.